Friday, July 5, 2019

Self Care

I learned to care for my emotional self during a time of angst and sadness. Not long after my mama 
died, I fell into a hole that I worked very hard to climb out of. With the help of a few practitioners and the 
undying support of my husband, I did it! I decided then that I never wanted to fall into that big of a hole 
again and so for about 13 years, I have followed a simple practise that allows me to keep my emotions 
forever in check.

The following is my daily routine:

My feet do not hit the ground in the morning until I smile warmly, concentrate on one deep breath and 
am thankful that I am where I am.

In the shower, I ask that I be cleared and released of any negativity that is or isn't mine and I again 
breathe deeply and am grateful.

Inspired by Matthew McConaughey, every morning I write in my gratitude journal:
  1. I give thanks to for… (often something from the previous day, or a warm bed, a roof over my head, 
  2. I write in thankfulness to for… (the opportunities I have been gifted)
  3. I look forward to… (on school days it usually involves being with 5 year olds and sometimes it is 
    simply that I get to sit on my verandah in silence with a glass of wine.)
  4. I write about what I will chase that day… (always one of my character traits, like, my best listening 

World peacemaker, Mahatma Gandhi said, “The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the 
service of others.” Each day, I think of something good that I will specifically do that day and ask that I be 
shown of what service I can be. 

As I drive to work, I ask that all of my loved ones remain safe that day until they return to their 
respective beds and ask that all of the people that I love and the people I will meet that day (even if I 
just meet them in passing on the highway) stay safe and are cared for. I ask the Universe to help me be 
a better person that day than I was the day before.

Before going to bed at night I again check in with myself, to see how the day went and if I need some 
guidance so that I can be an even better person the next day.

I truly believe that we are here on purpose to use our gifts and talents to work and be together, lifting 
each other up, for the good of our world. 

These are my daily habits that I had to practise every day so that they would be just that, a habit. And 
then... I also, breathe easy lots, look people in the eye, discern intent, write,

laugh with friends, read for joy, practise yoga, garden and cycle. 

Will I fall into a hole again? Possibly, but I know it will not take me long to climb out again.

~ Ellyn

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Sunday, March 17, 2019


Not only do I care deeply for people, I have great hope in them… in us.

My heart sits in my throat these days and like many, my emotions are at the ready. A senseless act has happened, in what would would seem a world away, but it isn’t. The world has become very small and I am thankful for this. It has allowed me to connect with many who are interested in the same things that I am interested in. People who care deeply about other people are able to come together for good in this world. Unfortunately, the reverse is also true.

So many lives were taken in #NewZealand this week and I struggle with wrapping my head around the why. I do not want their lives to be for not. And what about the gunman? How does one develop so much hatred for another. In this case, hatred for a group of people.

We must work together to raise the energy of kindness in our own little corners of this world and help to protect and honour each other, through compassion and understanding.  But how?

I am a teacher and it has been my practise and my way, to educate. Through education, we open our minds to a variety of ways of doing and thinking. Education gifts us with a knowledge of the world, for the betterment of the world. That’s what it is all about. We are here on this earth to use our gifts and talents and work with each other for good!

What will I do to help with those who are grieving over the events from last week? I will acknowledge what has happened, remove myself from any negative energy about others and listen.

I will move forward in hope…

~ Ellyn

Thursday, January 3, 2019


I’ve been walking around with a lump in my throat today, reflecting.

You see, “sometimes I wonder about my life. I lead a small life - well, valuable, but small - and sometimes I wonder, do I do it because I like it, or because I haven’t been brave?” Character Kathleen Kelly played by Meg Ryan from the movie, You’ve Got Mail.

I have watched this movie countless times. I love it and so much of it resonates with my very being. From the bouquet of HB pencils Joe Fox considers sending Kathleen, in September, to the remark about business needing to always begin, with being personal, the lines resonate with my very being. The odd thing is, I have never noticed the aforementioned line until my recent re-watching of the movie.

I truly believe that I too, live a valued life but it is small, and is it small because I have not been brave?

I don’t have any answers today, just thoughts, reflections.

~ Ellyn